It is a sensitive subject that has touched most all our families, and we need to bring God to it!
Marriage was His idea from the beginning (Genesis 2:18-24). It is the very foundation of our society. God calls us to stay with our mates for as long as we live (Romans 7:2-3). To find a way to make it work, and not look for a way out. He does allow divorce and remarriage for those whose mates are sexually unfaithful to them. All others who have divorced or been divorced must be reconciled to their spouses or remain unmarried. Another marriage by such persons is adultery and those involved in such marriages are adulterers (Matthew 19:1-9; Mark 10:11-12; Romans 7:2-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11). No matter the circumstances, divorce is always painful. No wonder God hates it (Malachi 2:16), because He cares for us so (1 Peter 5:7).
The divorced need to know that God loves them (John 3:16; Ephesians 5:2) and that He can bless their lives abundantly (John 10:10). He sympathizes with the feelings of failure and insecurity that some experience. He knows how some are so mistreated and so misunderstood. He understands the financial problems and the difficult relationship issues often associated with divorce and remarriage. He is able to help those who are truly penitent and obedient to His will for their lives (Psalms 139; Hebrews 2:14-18; 4:14-16). He provides forgiveness, love, strength, guidance, wisdom, meaning, purpose, life and hope eternal in Jesus Christ (Ephesians 1:3). There is no reason for anyone to think that God has left them or cast them away (Hebrews 13:5-6). He is always working to save you and wants to be there for all who would trust Him with their lives (Matthew 11:28-30; Acts 17:26-28; Hebrews 5:8-9).
The divorced need to know that God’s church loves them, too (1 John 4:11). Like God, we must seek to bless them, to understand them, to forgive those who need forgiveness, to help those who need help, and to always be there for them (Romans 15:1-7; Galatians 6:1-2). We must be that greater spiritual family that can never be taken away from them (Matthew 12:46-50).
Being divorced has its own unique struggles and challenges but it is not the end of your life. You can live for Christ in whatever state you may find yourself (Philippians 4:11-13). God is glorified whenever, whoever gives themselves in obedience to the Lord. Don’t allow divorce to ruin your life here or in eternity. No matter what, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us (Romans 8:37-39).
Robert Dodson is the Preaching Minister for the Northwest Church of Christ.
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